Top Strategy #6 of 7: Turning Dreams into Reality: Silencing the Gremlins In Your Head

Top Strategy #6:  Silencing the Negative Self-Talk and Destructive Gremlins in Your Head.

If you’ve been following along and completing the steps I’ve outlined, you now have three dreams fleshed out and ready to be realized. Maybe you’ve already aligned all the tools and resources you need, and maybe you’ve even taken your first few steps. It feels so good, doesn’t it?

GOOD: That’s what I want you to sit and feel. How does it feel in your body? Do you have a sense of excitement? I hope so.

Now, I want you to sit with this feeling of “good” because on a day soon, maybe when you’re tired or under the weather, that negative self-talk—the sabotaging, self-confidence-eating Gremlins in your head—are going to try to wreak havoc on your dreams. And you need to remember that FEELING of GOOD so you can go back, sit down and re-access it, fill your heart and soul up with it, so the decietful, undermining gremlins of negative self-talk don't defeat you!

If your goal is to lose weight, maybe you’ll slip and have a brownie. That’s all the Gremlin needs to start a self-defeating dialogue with your conscious mind. “See, you can’t do this. Why bother? Really, just have another brownie, or the whole pan for that matter.” And many times, internal self-talk will be harsher than that.

Remember, the only thing you can really control in this world is YOUR THOUGHTS and YOUR ACTIONS. But thoughts drive actions, so it is of utmost importance that when your negative conversation starts to spin, you go to a quiet place and practice overriding that negative conversation with a positive one.

Example: The month of January for me, personally, is overstuffed with big, bold accomplishments I have decided on. It is one month of incredible dedication and focus that I need to give to my business to reach the next level of success, which is what I ardently desire and sincerely believe I am supposed to do.

Yesterday, I found myself thinking, “You’ll never get this all done.” But because I am practiced at overcoming negative self-talk, my inner voice of self-parenting kicked in, beat the negative talk and emotions away, and replied, “Kathleen, this is going to be such an amazing, wonderful month. I am so excited! And when this month is complete you are going to be so ecstatic! And as a reward, make a plan to get away for a few days in the beginning of February as a celebration of all that you are going to accomplish!”

What am I going to do? Make reservations for the spa I love in Connecticut! No baby, no dogs, no noise!

If you need some help with this, and that begins with writing positive affirmations, go to my website at http://www.kathleenastonintl.com/ and download my Affirmations Guide & Worksheet. It’s free and will help you develop positive statements to override habitual negative self-talk.

Tune in tomorrow for Top Strategy #7: Clap Your Hands Three Times if You Believe!

Cheers,

Kathleen

Top Strategy #5 of 7 Turning Dreams into Reality: Steps for Avoiding Sabotage.

Top Strategy #5: Avoiding Sinkholes and Quicksand on Your Journey to Dream Attainment.

Now that you have all the tools and resources you need at your disposal, you are ready to begin your incredible journey toward your dream goal. But before you do that, it is critically important to identify where you may run into roadblocks, sinkholes and quicksand. These are situations that could arise and throw you completely off course, sabotaging your efforts and creating a barrier to your dream attainment.

By identifying the situations, barriers and circumstances that can  up front, you can preplan how you will handle them when they appear. Knowing ahead of time what you to do will allow you to have a ready solution in your pocket when that moment arrives. And those moments will appear just when you thought you had everything conquered.

Example: Let’s use this blog challenge as an example. My desired outcome is to blog 31 times in 31 days. Barriers for me personally include time constraints with balancing an educational program I’m completing in conjunction with running a business, taking care of a 3-year-old, helping my 20-year-old, managing a household as a sole provider, etc.

My solution? To take one day, block out time and write the entire week’s blogs at once; I will then program each one to go out on the day I wish. 

By being aware of other demands and finding a solution ahead of time, I will be able to achieve the Blog Challenge Goal. And if a difficult situation does occur, such as my little daughter being sick and having to stay home, I can move that block of time to the next day, or get up early or work after she’s in bed. But once it’s done, I don’t have to think about it anymore during the week. This frees up my mind to focus on other tasks of importance.

Work it out now!

Tune in tomorrow for

Top Strategy #6: Silencing the Negative Self-Talk and Destructive Gremlins in Your Head.

Cheers,

Kathleen

Strategy 1 of 7: Awaken Your Inner Dream Genie Before She Turns to Dust!

Top Strategy #1:  Reawaken Your Inner Dream Genie Before She Turns to Dust in the Bottle

To be able to realize a dream, you must be able to imagine it.  You must be able to see it happening so clearly, just as you imagined yourself flying to the moon when you were five years-old.  This may seem simple. But as adults, our dream machines are rusty.  Starting them up again can be a slow process. But it is critical to believing, once again, that anything, ANYTHING, is possible.

The first step to building up your atrophied dream muscles is to make a new dream list. OK, hear me here.  This is a “no-holds-barred, cut-loose, anything you could possibly want” dream list.  It’s fine to have things like a new car, or new carpeting. But, I really implore you to think like your inner five-year old.  I want YOU to want it all! Then write it down.  Allow yourself the pleasure of extravagant desires.  Allow yourself the gift of imagining life without any obstacles, barriers or real-world limitations.

It is only by allowing yourself to fully dream again, that you will stumble across the lost dreams of your passion, or your inner longings and true purpose.  If you do not allow yourself this luxury, you may ultimately find that you are aiming at dreams that are imposed on you by another … and that don’t truly belong to you at all.

Here are just a few things that are on my dream list: 

·         Have a full-time housekeeper, cook and gardener

·         Have a driver to take me everywhere I need to go

·         Travel to four exotic destinations a year, once every quarter

·         Reach and impact 1 million women in a positive way

Now, it’s your turn.  Get out the paper … get pretty paper or fun paper and a great pen.  Then just write whatever comes into your mind … reach high, reach wide, reach for everything you ever imagined. I want BIG, BOLD, AUDACIOUS DREAMS HERE PEOPLE!

Please let me know all the new dreams that you awaken!  Tomorrow, we’ll be exploring how to take those dreams and put them into a master goal list!  Boy, this is going to be fun!

TUNE IN TOMORROW: Monday, January 3, 2011 FOR:

Top Strategy #2:  Are You the Master of Your Goals OR Are You Executing Someone Else’s?

See you then!

Kathleen