Top Strategy #6 of 7: Turning Dreams into Reality: Silencing the Gremlins In Your Head

Top Strategy #6:  Silencing the Negative Self-Talk and Destructive Gremlins in Your Head.

If you’ve been following along and completing the steps I’ve outlined, you now have three dreams fleshed out and ready to be realized. Maybe you’ve already aligned all the tools and resources you need, and maybe you’ve even taken your first few steps. It feels so good, doesn’t it?

GOOD: That’s what I want you to sit and feel. How does it feel in your body? Do you have a sense of excitement? I hope so.

Now, I want you to sit with this feeling of “good” because on a day soon, maybe when you’re tired or under the weather, that negative self-talk—the sabotaging, self-confidence-eating Gremlins in your head—are going to try to wreak havoc on your dreams. And you need to remember that FEELING of GOOD so you can go back, sit down and re-access it, fill your heart and soul up with it, so the decietful, undermining gremlins of negative self-talk don't defeat you!

If your goal is to lose weight, maybe you’ll slip and have a brownie. That’s all the Gremlin needs to start a self-defeating dialogue with your conscious mind. “See, you can’t do this. Why bother? Really, just have another brownie, or the whole pan for that matter.” And many times, internal self-talk will be harsher than that.

Remember, the only thing you can really control in this world is YOUR THOUGHTS and YOUR ACTIONS. But thoughts drive actions, so it is of utmost importance that when your negative conversation starts to spin, you go to a quiet place and practice overriding that negative conversation with a positive one.

Example: The month of January for me, personally, is overstuffed with big, bold accomplishments I have decided on. It is one month of incredible dedication and focus that I need to give to my business to reach the next level of success, which is what I ardently desire and sincerely believe I am supposed to do.

Yesterday, I found myself thinking, “You’ll never get this all done.” But because I am practiced at overcoming negative self-talk, my inner voice of self-parenting kicked in, beat the negative talk and emotions away, and replied, “Kathleen, this is going to be such an amazing, wonderful month. I am so excited! And when this month is complete you are going to be so ecstatic! And as a reward, make a plan to get away for a few days in the beginning of February as a celebration of all that you are going to accomplish!”

What am I going to do? Make reservations for the spa I love in Connecticut! No baby, no dogs, no noise!

If you need some help with this, and that begins with writing positive affirmations, go to my website at http://www.kathleenastonintl.com/ and download my Affirmations Guide & Worksheet. It’s free and will help you develop positive statements to override habitual negative self-talk.

Tune in tomorrow for Top Strategy #7: Clap Your Hands Three Times if You Believe!

Cheers,

Kathleen

7 Top Strategies for Narrowing the Gap between Dreams and Reality

What you vividly imagine, ardently believe, sincerely desire, and enthusiastically act upon…must inevitably come to pass! --- Paul J. Meyer

Never have I found a statement to be quite as true as the above quote from success and transformation leader, Paul J. Meyer.  It four key elements of visualization, belief, desire and action are the quintessential components that drive the realms of one’s reality and dreams together, fusing them  forever and breathing life into the vapor of a thought that existed at one point as a mere fantasy of consciousness.

It is upon these magnificent four points of visualization, belief, desire and action that I have built these life-changing 7 Top Strategies for Narrowing the Gap between Dreams and Reality.  And over the course of the coming week, I will share with you an overview of each strategy on which you may reflect and digest as you make your passionate plans for your own dream fulfillment in 2011.

As children, we have absolutely no problem envisioning ourselves as Queen of the Castle.  As we bounce around on little feet, we are exuberant and alive with the many dreams we entertain hourly.  We believe, as we are often told, that we can become anything we want.  We are delighted when our parents and adult role models nod at our dreams of being an astronaut or rock star.  We are all in agreement, children and adults alike.

Then something happens.  We start to grow and suddenly our beliefs, that we can be anything, are passively resisted by the adults within our sphere of influence.  We hear phrases such as, “Well, you know, not many people who play music really get to be rock stars. That’s not real life, Sally.  It’s just nice to dream.”

The adult resistance to our higher ideals becomes more aggressive with every birthday that passes. Finally, with a sledgehammer it is hit home: dreams are just that--wild, fun, fantastic daydreams—and nothing more. We are told to be practical. To get our heads out of the clouds. To come back to earth.  And sadly, that is the beginning of the loss of our dream capabilities and our connection to and belief in what is truly possible.

TUNE IN TOMORROW FOR:

Top Strategy #1:  Reawaken Your Inner Dream Genie Before She Turns to Dust in the Bottle

See you then!

Kathleen